Lisa Steadman, who recently wrote the rules of breakup etiquette, is officially THE breakup go-to girl: She just came out with the book It's a Breakup not a Breakdown and there's even fun merch to go with it! My favorite piece is this clever t-shirt about the "needing more space" breakup excuse:

Sound familiar?

Well, if your guy is telling you he needs space, not only should you sport Lisa's t-shirt... you should find out what lame-o lines like that really mean with the new iVillage Guy Decoder tool! It lists hilarious and oh-so-true answers to your burning questions about baffling male behavior.

And here's a fun insider secret: Our Guy Decoder, W. Bruce Cameron, is the real-life boyfriend of our Grrl Genius blogger, Cathryn Michon!