Chemistry Class
I love watching Willard Scott read the 100-year birthdays and 75-year anniversaries on the Today show. Better yet, I love it when he suddenly breaks into song. It's like a Broadway show! The other day he listed a man with the hometown of Manhattan, New York and—bam!—Ella Fitzgerald: "...the Bronx and Staten Island, tooooo."
Anyway, one of the anniversary couples that morning included their secret to keeping the chemistry alive in their relationship: going dancing together every Saturday night. (Wow. God bless 'em, as Willard would say.)
Having only been married a year and three months, I'm not sure if F and I have a "secret to keeping the chemistry alive" quite yet. (If anything, we're big believers in the play-together-stay-together philosophy.) But, if you've been married for a while, I'd sure love to hear yours! What keeps the chemistry alive in your relationship?
Date nights! We go out to eat at least once a week together, just the two of us, to our favorite sushi restaurant. No matter what is going on in our daily lives, its so nice knowing that we have at least that one quiet night to see eachother and talk face to face without distractions. Its kept us together for 10 years, and happily married for 3! :)
I love that, Katie! You're right. F and I eat a lot of take-out, but we should get out of our apartment more often to make it more like a "date." Thank you!
Laughing. It might sound lame, but Dh and I can make each other laugh at the silliest nonsense! It doesn't matter how lousy the day has been, I know if I can get a smile out of him--he's mine and I'll have him cracking up in no time, and it works both ways. So, our secret would be "the couple that laughs together, stays together".
This reminds me of an older guy I used to work with when we were newlyweds, he and his wife were celebrating their 40th wedding anniversary so someone asked him his secret. His response, and I quote..."Everyone and awhile we just jump each other's bones".
I agree with Katie, Date Night is a biggie. It gives the couple a chance to delve deeper or even discover/re-discover their partners interests. But I have another one to add...
Make time to have Sex. There I said it. Sex is so important to a marriage/relationship. It keeps the intimate connection alive. I mean (and tell me if you disagree) a good romp in the sac makes you feel reconnected no matter how long it's been since the last time you did it. It makes you open up, it releases the endorphins and brings you back to when things were new and exciting; and hell... it might even create conversation between a couple that hasn't spoken in a while just by saying where you like it.
Ok I would like to have "date night" But it never happens. How do you leave the kids without the guilt? We always feel bad, especially if we go to a restaurant that we know my kisa would enjoy. We are kinda at the point of no matter what either of us do we're on eachothers nerves. Its very frusterating. Help