Is Ex-Call Girl Ashley Dupre Really to Blame? (Diane Sawyer Interview Tonight!)
Diane Sawyer is interviewing ex-call girl Ashley Dupre tonight on 20/20.
I've heard several media reports lately where Dupre's referred to as "the woman who brought down New York Governor Eliot Spitzer."
I'd beg to differ.
Dupre tells Sawyer that she didn't know he was the governor, but that's besides the point: The governor chose to see a prostitute, knowingly putting his successful career and, more importantly, his family on the line. Wouldn't it be more accurate to say he brought himself down?
The New York Daily News recently reported that men are engaging in regular sex with prostitutes to combat the stress of these uncertain economic times... even married men. In fact, NYC psychotherapist Jonathan Alpert says more and more of his clients are battling sex addiction (like David Duchovny):
"'Since early spring, maybe late winter, there's just been an increase, and I believe it might have something to do with the economy,' he says. 'A lot of the Wall Streeters use sex as a way to cope with stress. Bankers do tend to rely on pretty unhealthy ways of coping with stress... Some of them come right out and say, I'm stressed. This is how I deal with it. It's not the worst thing in the world. I'm not using drugs. But when it starts to increase, then it's a problem.' According to Alpert, many of these men consider going to an Asian massage parlor during their lunch break normal. 'The service received may include being masturbated or even oral sex,' he says. 'This has increased, as reported by several of my clients. Instead of going once a week, maybe they're going three or four times a week. And these are married men.'"
I wonder if those married men blame the economy for their cheating--as if it's a legitimate excuse--the way Peter Cook blamed his infidelity on Christie Brinkley.
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The needs of men and women are different, particularly when in stress. Men can dissociate sex from love much easier than women, and never look back at a pertner if they did not have emotional link.
Fewer women can have sex without liking the guy on emotional elvel, unless heartburn of broken love, early or late in life makes them rebellious, a give as much as you receive attitude.
Wives and girlfriend would rather talk and cuddle when they sense that their man is disturbed, rather that relieve him sexually. More women need to adopt this and find how much their man appreciates.
Men on other hand need to cuddle and talk to their women, try to distract them to other topics only after hearing them out completely on the source of their uneasiness. The empathy and warmth may or maynot lead to sex. But sex doesnt matter as much as empathy to women.
She didn't "bring him down" he knowingly broke the law, his marriage vows and his own religious and moral convictions because he thought he was above it all. If it hadn't been her it would've been someone else. He's the common demoninator, not her.