Sex on My Desk - a Blog by the Love & Sex Editor at iVillage

Condoms are too tight! They don't fit me! They're too confining! (I'm so sure.) But no more excuses... Introducing the spray-on condom:

"The prototype, which began testing last year, consists of a hard plastic tube with nozzles that spray liquid latex from all directions, much like the water jets in the tunnel of a car wash. According to Krause, there are numerous advantages to his spray-on condom. "The condom fits 100% perfectly, so the safety is much higher than a standard condom's, and it feels more natural." But there are some stumbling blocks. The men who tested the spray-on condom had a few hesitations, Krause says. Some were "a little bit afraid to use the tube" and would only try it on their fingers. Others worried that the mechanism, which hisses as it sprays, might ruin the mood."

Nahhh....

(Still no update to be found on the musical condom.)

The Week magazine, which my colleague Letisha refers to as "only the best magazine in the world," recently wrote:

"The Swedish agency that monitors gender equality has begun an investigation of the state-run pharmacy, Apoteket, for allegedly selling 'sex toys' suitable only for women. ...One complaint stated that Apoteket had bought into the 'misguided view on sexuality where a woman with a dildo is seen as liberated, strong and independent, whereas a man with a blow-up plastic vagina is viewed as disgusting and perverted.'"

So what do you think? Vote, then explain below... Also related: Why sex toys are a win-win, a guide for men

First Wives World's Jill Brooke and Debbie Nigro are having a debate. If the definition is “a woman who chooses to play/date/carouse/befriend a younger man," then why does the term have such a negative connotation? Weigh in...

A few staffers were collaborating on a subject line for an upcoming iVillage newsletter.  The correspondence went something like this:

Staffer #1: "We were thinking Send Him a Love Letter He'll Never Forget.  Do you like that?"

Staffer #2: "It's very nice and all, but is it realistic?  My letters to my boyfriend are typically Take Out the Trash, You Hobo or, when I'm feeling especially romantic, You're Not That Bad Really... When It's Dark and I'm Drunk.  Thoughts?"

With the sky-high U.S. divorce rates, many people are asking Why get married?  Well, Divorce360.com is reporting on a new study out of the Pew Research Center—and the results are surprising.

"On the list of nine things that make up a successful marriage, having children was ranked as eighth in importance. The numbers in 2007 had declined from two thirds in 1990 who considered having children as important to marriage --- ranking it third in importance on the nine-point list."

Here's their complete top, um, nine list (clearly I'm missing one... please let me know if you can find it!):

• Faithfulness
• Sexual compatibility
• Sharing chores
• Adequate income
• Good housing
• Shared religious beliefs
• Shared tastes and interests
• Having children
• Agreement on politics
Do you agree?