There's a new "Sexploration" article up on MSNBC.com about sexy text messages, a topic that's been very popular here on iVillage.  But Brian Alexander's piece focuses on sexy texts within military marriages: "Love and war: He's deployed, his wife is flirting." A 21-year-old man in the military has been married to his wife for about a year and says...

"When I deployed, she [text] messaged a guy and told him that if she were single she would have sex, cuddle, kiss with him. I was hurt when I returned and found out about this message. She continued to say it was just something they were talking about, that we are married, she loves me and no one else. Well, now our sexual life is down to about once, if that, a week. I have a fear of her cheating on me."

I agree with Dr .Gail Saltz's definition of cheating. She writes...

"An affair really has to do with secrecy, deception of the partner and therefore betrayal. It also has to do with the amount of emotional energy you put into the new person that you therefore are not giving to your partner."

So what do you think? Is Dr. Gail right? Based on your definition of infidelity, does sending sexy texts count as cheating?

Former coworker Lindsey just sent me this video.  (You remember Lindsey... who wrote about faux nipples?)  It plays out like a cartoon Discovery Channel special about "boy meets girl" in the world of drunken text messaging. (If I've told you once, I've told you a thousand times!) Can you relate?



PLUS: iVillagers confess the sexiest text messages they've ever sent >>

Do you send sexy texts? Does your guy send sexy texts to you? Don't be shy. Everybody's doin' it. And I really mean everybody—even the mayor of Detroit. Mayor Kwame Kilpatrick denied that he had an affair with a top aide—under oath!—but their 14,000 sexy texts (right, three zeros) tell a very different story:

The mayor's indiscretion has landed him in a Clinton-style scandal that could cost him his job and his law license and even bring perjury charges. The Detroit Free Press did not explain exactly how it obtained the messages, which were sent or received in 2002-03 from Chief of Staff Christine Beatty's city-issued pager.

They even released some of the text messages themselves:

"I'm madly in love with you," Kilpatrick wrote on Oct. 3, 2002. "I hope you feel that way for a long time," Beatty replied. "In case you haven't noticed, I am madly in love with you, too!" On Oct. 16, 2002, Kilpatrick wrote Beatty: "I've been dreaming all day about having you all to myself for 3 days. Relaxing, laughing, talking, sleeping and making love."

So how do iVillage women feel about sexy texts? Read their "Sexy Text Confessions" right here!